confusedinfj:

How to get out of a loop

What’s a loop? It’s when you have a problem, or something bugging you, and your first function tries to fix it. But it can’t, so it gives it to your third function, cos it’s good at solving problems for you normally. But the third function is like, ‘what?’ and sends it back to your first. And it just keeps going and freaking you out.

First, I will begin with the generic advice. Then I’ll try and have a go at what that might specifically look like.

Everyone always says you can get out of a loop by using your second function. However, thst makes zero sense. How is an infj meant to stop Ni-Ti thoughts about what it might feel like to die by using Fe? They can’t.

So I’ve tested this, and to get out of a loop you need to use your last function, which will actually redirect you to the second after you have used it well enough. So I’ll start with infj.

Infj

To get out of a Ni-Ti loop, infjs must think about life as it actually is. They must listen to their inferior Se. It’s probably telling them they’re making themselves miserable, and they don’t even like having Ni-Ti thoughts. Worrying about things won’t help, so you should concentrate on the present moment. This doesn’t mean infjs should go out and get drunk or something. It means they should stop confusing themselves by making things vague and make them tangible. Think of all the things you can do now, for all the people around you. Fe may then take over, and the infj should be fixed.

Enfj

To stop a Fe-Se loop, Enfjs have to embrace Ti. Fe-Se mean Enfjs become too in the moment for their own good, and may be over social, and shallow in their social connections. They should think about what it is they want to accomplish in life and if they are actually doing anything meaningful. Once they have worked out what they want to achieve in life, Ni should take over and begin planning how to do this. The enfj should then be fixed.

Entj

The Te-Se loop makes entjs obsessed Roth controlling their environment, and makes them do a bunch of stuff without really considering it. Entjs need to embrace Fi, and have their melt down they are putting off. Are they happy with their life? How do they want it to be? Who do they want to be? Ni should then take over and begin planning how to achieve this in the grand scheme of things.

Intj

To get out of a Ni-Fi loop, intjs must think about life as it actually is. They must listen to their inferior Se. It’s probably telling them their theories make no sense, and aren’t applicable to the present moment. Intjs may be conspiracy theorising, or they may worry that they aren’t achieving anything and will become failures. This doesn’t mean infjs should go out and get drunk or something. It means they should consider their lives as they actually are. Are they actually being useless? Then change it. Are they being useful? Then continue. But how to continue? Te should take over here, creating concrete plans for the intj to follow in life.

Enfp

The Ne-Te loop makes enfps do lots of weird things they think might be helpful, and can make them critical about the weirdest things. Enfps need to use Si to get out of this loop. They should consider the past – people’s past actions, and their own – and pay attention to the details around them. Perhaps fairy lights hanging in their bedroom are stressing them out? (IDK GUYS). Enfps need to step back and consider what they actually want to achieve in life, and if their life has matched that goal to date. If it hasn’t, they need to evaluate what changes they want to make. Fi should take over.

Infp

Fi-Si basically means criticising yourself and all your past actions, until the infp hates who they are. They may feel stuck and irredeemable, because they can’t explain away all the bad things they think they did. Infps need to use their Te. Okay, that was a bad thing. How can I make sure I don’t do that again? How can I fix that? How can I heal my relationship with that person? Ne will then take over and brainstorm the solutions.

Entp

Ne-Fe basically brainstorms all the bad things, and how everyone will be hurt by their actions, or how everyone will laugh at their failure. They may become suspicious of everybody, because they imagine everyone is against them. Entps need to connect with Si, and analyse the past. Do all these people really hate them? Does that really seem like a consistent theory? And is it REALLY likely that x, y, and z will happen? Ti should then take over to help them regain a clearer perception of reality.

Intp

Intps basically reinvent the past when in a Ti-Si loop. They may feel as if everyone is corrupt and stupid, and they are superior to everyone. They can become closed off and hurtful. Intps need to connect with Fe. Do they really think this person is horrible? Or do they remember all the nice things that person did? In a loop, intps may also be convinced they have a terrible disease. They need to use Fe here too. Do they think all the doctors are lying when they say they’re fine? Ne should step in with the answers.

Esfj

The Fe-Ne loop may make esfjs incredibly insecure about their relationships with people, similar to an entp. Esfjs need to use Ti to consider if their fears really make sense. If that person really were going to break up with you, would they really propose? Probably not. Also, here are ten things they did in the past that proves they love you (Si takes over).

Isfj

The Si-Ti loop makes isfjs convinced they’re right based on past experience and internal logic alone. Obviously the isfj needs to get back in touch with Fe to consider how other people are different, but to get there they need to use Ne. Is this really the only way to do this? What if it’s wrong? You didn’t consider these possibilities. Fe should then take over.

Estj

A Te-Ne loop makes Estjs do lots of weird things they may not actually like or want to do. To get out of it they should embrace their Fi melt down and consider what they actually want in life. What is it that’s actually bothering them? Once they work this out, Si can help them fix the problem.

Istj

In a Si-Fi loop, istjs avoid new things and live in a routine they find comforting. To fix this they need to embrace the flood of Ne options, which may be overwhelming. Ne will be telling them they’re unhappy with their strict routine, so embracing it may be overwhelming at first. Te will help the istj work out which ideas are actually practical and worth doing in practice.

Esfp

In a Se-Te loop, Esfps will probably just do everything. Esfps need to step back and actually plan ahead, think some Ni thoughts. What will be the consequences of their actions? Fi should then take over and help them consider what they actually want to achieve and who they want to be.

Isfp

Isfps in a Fi-Ni loop will imagine their future as the most depressing thing they can imagine. They will imagine themselves as victims of circumstance. Te needs to step in here, and help them realise they can control their lives, and stop certain outcomes from happening. Se will then step in and make them realise half the things they were thinking of are unlikely, given current circumstances.

Estp

In a Se-Fe loop, estps may be obsessed with controlling people. They may do way too many crazy things and be overly social and snarky. Estps need to think things through with some inferior Ni. What will be the consequences of their actions? Their Ti can then take over and help them decide what they really want to do.

Istp

A Ti-Ni loop makes istps convinced their logic is correct, regardless of what anyone else thinks. They need to consider everyone else with some inferior Fe. Is that person actually stupid, or could there be some merit to what they said? Se should then step in and help them consider the current circumstances.

So in conclusion, I hope this helps anyone out if their loop. The first step is obviously realising you’re in one. To realise that, just ask yourself if you feel happy or if you feel kind of angsty, like something is wrong, but you’re not sure what. If you feel that way, you’re probably in a loop (or hungry).