I absolutely hate it when people call sex a need. “I have needs” or “he has specific needs”—no, you have wants. Sex is a desire, not a need; otherwise nuns and monks would’ve died from practicing celibacy. And 99% of the time that I see sex being called a need, it’s to justify cheating.
So can we please stop disillusioning ourselves and stop calling sex a need
It’s also used to justify rape—saying that sex is a need is not empowerment.
Sex is not a need. Nobody dies from not having sex. There are many non-sexual ways to relieve stress and have fun.
Also, often therapists will actually ask patients to refrain from sex during emotionally turbulent periods to avoid complicating relationships and to help the patient gain perspective on their life and choices. Sex clouds our judgment. This can be a good thing, since it helps couples overlook small problems and stay together. However, it can be really harmful when it causes someone to overlook bigger problems, such as abuse or other unhealthy behaviors.
Our media is partially (or maybe mostly) to blame for our misconceptions about sex. How often do you hear characters on TV or in movies saying “Oh, he just needs to get laid,” or “I haven’t gotten laid in _____ (weeks/months/years),” or “He/she’s a virgin? No wonder he/she (negative behavior trait).”
Sex is not the solution to personality problems or relationship issues. It doesn’t make you magically “more chill” or a nicer person. What it does is connect you to the other person on a very deep level, which is a good thing unless that person isn’t sticking around. Sex without commitment leads to uncertainty, self-esteem issues, heartbreak, and other emotional instability. It doesn’t “fix” anything.
Stop treating sex like it’s a basic human need. Stop making teenagers feel like they “haven’t lived” until they’ve had sex.
And definitely stop using the so-called “need for sex” as an excuse for infidelity, rape, porn usage, etc.
Anyway sex, specifically BECAUSE it’s a bonding thing, is on the human hierarchy of needs chart. It is an emotional need, not a physical one, and you’ll notice that monks and nuns often stray from their path and have sex. It’s well documented.
Me: Noragami is coming back after being on hiatus for over a year! I’m so excited I was thinking this was never going to happen! What a wonderful day!
Also me: *re-reads the manga and remembers that Yukine’s name is cracking, Bishamon has been unconscious for far too long, Kazuma has run away out of guilt and self loathing, and chapter 74 ends on the cusp of a new hell arc*
A 3 month old baby girl : *Spreads her legs while playing around on her bed like any normal functioning other baby does since babies need to develop the muscles and bones in their legs by moving them*
Straight Parents™ : Now now dont act like such a whore little lady™ 🙂 Here let me hold your legs closed together just like how all proper ladies’™ legs should be :))
Literally every decent person : What,in the everloving fuck,is wrong with y’all .
This is the kind of shit im talking about.Stop sexualizing kids ugh.
1. janelle explicitly stated that she identifies with BOTH bi and pan labels
2. she was so respectful in her coming out interview and didn’t even say anything close to this lmao. people who look her up and see this shit as an explanation of pansexuality and the implication that bisexuality doesn’t include trans people is a disgrace to janelle, bisexual people, AND the people trying to learn more about pansexuality
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