Why is this even a question? How is your child meant to learn to apologize when you don’t do it yourself as a parent?
This is actually a really important factor in how I establish healthy, trusting relationships with kiddos at work. I am a human and therefore make mistakes, which children will catch and call me out for, because children are information sponges with no verbal filters.
When a kid says, “but miss tommy, i thought you said we’re not supposed to do that,” I answer, “You’re right. I’m sorry, I shouldn’t have done that. I won’t do it again.” It could be something small, maybe a kid sees me biting my nails, or maybe I grabbed a kid by the arm who was about to collide with something solid but I grabbed too hard. Whatever it is, it’s important to
acknowledge the mistake,
apologize to the kid,
and verbalize a plan to correct it.
Not only does this model HOW to make an effective apology, but it establishes trust on many levels. The children who witness the exchange now know that:
I will be honest with them even if it does not serve my ego,
I care about their feelings,
and I am taking their needs seriously.
Apologize to your kids when you mess up! It won’t diminish your authority as their grown-up, it shows that you respect that authority!
This is one thing emotionally abusive parents are known for. Holding power over accountability and they wonder why their children don’t want to be around when they get older.
Its the reason I say sorry so much now…even if I dont have a reason too….I feel like I have to say sorry for everything because its impossible for anybody else to be wrong..at Least that’s what my brain thinks….
“Let me just explain how fucking ridiculous you are”
“Stop whining I can’t hear you talk”
“Yes I definitely think that I’m an emphatetic person I just don’t like people being such donkeys all the time”
“Well yes maybe you could call me an asshole”
ENTJ
“You can’t say that.”
“Stop fucking complaining or this will never get ready”
“Do I really need to do everything alone?”
“Then I’ll just hold two birthday parties for me”
“I will take care of it!”
“I just can’t help my greatness.”
INTJ
“Look at my notes? Aren’t they perfect?”
“Haha people are just so dumb!”
“When I’m a psychiatrist and live alone in my own castle…”
“That’s just so wrong. I can’t even explain how wrong it is.”
INTP
“I just hope that that person gets hit by a bus. And gets quadriplegia.”
“Even the thought of some superious being watching us all the time is so idiotic”
“I hate you all.”
“We should conquer this whole country. I know excatly how.”
INFP
“Nobody understands me”
“Why doensn’t anyone else like this *special snowflake thing* I adore?”
“It’s not important…”
“HECKLE YEAH”
“They’re just adorable!!”
ENFP
“Oh gosh why do I know that person? And that person? Why do I know everyone?”
“I don’t really like that person? You ask why? “They’re just… how do I say this politely? Bastard.”
“Oh why haven’t I ate in three days? I just forgor I guess”
“Why on earth am I so depressed?”
ENFJ
“Now everybody will do excatly what I tell them to!!”
“Yes I have a lot of friends”
“No ofcourse I’m not bossy. Everyone should just do excatly what I tell them to do and what I planned but in their own way”
“Well it might not go one to one with science but I feel like it still is true”
INFJ
“Yes I am an introvert. I just happen to be loud sometimes”
“I know the feeling” and they really do
“Well, actually….”
“Ugh people are just morons. I hate people! Or no I don’t… atleast fully… I guess…”
“I’m sorry for saying that”
“No I’m not a perfectionist I just want to be the very best atleast in this one thing”
“Yeah I’m not going to tell you about that.” *tells about it*
Ok so this are actual things these types have said to me or around me. I know that some people may not relate to this but I still did this so hope you like it!
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