hello-kitty-senpai:

64bitwar:

thecommunityoftrustworthysinks:

prolifeproliberty:

tchaitea-hermione:

thylovelylionheart:

I absolutely hate it when people call sex a need. “I have needs” or “he has specific needs”—no, you have wants. Sex is a desire, not a need; otherwise nuns and monks would’ve died from practicing celibacy. And 99% of the time that I see sex being called a need, it’s to justify cheating.

So can we please stop disillusioning ourselves and stop calling sex a need

It’s also used to justify rape—saying that sex is a need is not empowerment.

Sex is not a need. Nobody dies from not having sex. There are many non-sexual ways to relieve stress and have fun.

Also, often therapists will actually ask patients to refrain from sex during emotionally turbulent periods to avoid complicating relationships and to help the patient gain perspective on their life and choices. Sex clouds our judgment. This can be a good thing, since it helps couples overlook small problems and stay together. However, it can be really harmful when it causes someone to overlook bigger problems, such as abuse or other unhealthy behaviors.

Our media is partially (or maybe mostly) to blame for our misconceptions about sex. How often do you hear characters on TV or in movies saying “Oh, he just needs to get laid,” or “I haven’t gotten laid in _____ (weeks/months/years),” or “He/she’s a virgin? No wonder he/she (negative behavior trait).”

Sex is not the solution to personality problems or relationship issues. It doesn’t make you magically “more chill” or a nicer person. What it does is connect you to the other person on a very deep level, which is a good thing unless that person isn’t sticking around. Sex without commitment leads to uncertainty, self-esteem issues, heartbreak, and other emotional instability. It doesn’t “fix” anything.

Stop treating sex like it’s a basic human need. Stop making teenagers feel like they “haven’t lived” until they’ve had sex.

And definitely stop using the so-called “need for sex” as an excuse for infidelity, rape, porn usage, etc.

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bunch of people without dicks talking shit

Anyway sex, specifically BECAUSE it’s a bonding thing, is on the human hierarchy of needs chart. It is an emotional need, not a physical one, and you’ll notice that monks and nuns often stray from their path and have sex. It’s well documented.